The most common concern that couple’s come to me with is that they seem to have drifted apart, like they are standing across from each other with a huge chasm between them, as if the foundation of their relationship has eroded away.
Now they are left on opposite sides of this “divide” without any answers to find reconciliation with the issues that have washed away what was the solid soil of their relationship.
What I have found is that there are two predominant themes that contribute to the divide that distances couples and creates a gap between where they are now and the relationship that they really want. The first is that the couple’s friendship has eroded. The second is that they aren’t managing conflict correctly.
When I work with couples I use the Gottman Method to Couple’s Therapy. The Gottman Method is a highly-successful, strength-based approach to couple’s work which is the result of over 40 years of research with thousands of couples.