The most common concern that couple’s come to me with is that they seem to have drifted apart, like they are standing across from each other with a huge chasm between them, as if the foundation of their relationship has eroded away.
Now they are left on opposite sides of this “divide” without any answers to find reconciliation with the issues that have washed away what was the solid soil of their relationship.
What I have found is that there are two predominant themes that contribute to the divide that distances couples and creates a gap between where they are now and the relationship that they really want. The first is that the couple’s friendship has eroded. The second is that they aren’t managing conflict correctly.
When I work with couples I use the Gottman Method to Couple’s Therapy. The Gottman Method is a highly-successful, strength-based approach to couple’s work which is the result of over 40 years of research with thousands of couples.
Individuals often come to me looking to find reconciliation or peace when they find themselves hurting, distressed, or struggling due to life’s circumstances. I have experience working with client the ability to reconcile with numerous issues including:
- Grief and loss
- Addiction and/or alcoholism
- Broken relationships
- Divorce recovery
I believe that my clients have the opportunity to create the change they are looking for, and that they are the authors of their own futures. With this in mind my clients and I will work together to create goals that will help them to move in a positive direction to achieve the peace and reconciliation they are looking for. I have been able to work with my clients to find resolution with problems related to their past and some of the choices that have made, and also with issues related to their faith.
I have had the pleasure of walking alongside dozens of clients who are at various points along their recovery from addiction and/or alcoholism, looking to reconcile with their pasts. My years of experience working in residential drug and alcohol treatment centers has given me a unique perspective and empathy for those in their recovery journey.
Many people in recovery often find themselves in a difficult place as they work to find peace and reconciliation with their actions of their past. The disease of addiction plays no favorites. Families are divided. Relationships are damaged. Finances are wiped out. Children are victimized. I work alongside individuals and families to learn the skill of reconciliation to overcome the damage of the past and move forward in renewed relationship.
I am a proponent of the 12-step recovery model, Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Al Anon, Nar Anon, and Celebrate Recovery.
My experience as a pastor, associate pastor, and youth pastor provided me with the wonderful opportunity to work with many great people. This experience, along with my seminary education, has given me a unique perspective of the many challenges people of faith encounter. This, combined with my education and training as a therapist provides me with distinct qualifications and a broader understanding while counseling people of faith. I find great joy teaching my clients the skills of reconciliation that allow them to reach peace with what is happening in their lives amidst their faith journey.